We’ve all heard the expression “A Change is as good as a Rest”. I personally prefer this one.
I get rest every night (twice on Sunday’s sometimes). I could definitely use a holiday but since I’m not due for a holiday for a couple months, a change will have to do for now. In my previous post, I’d Rather be a Model than a Martyr, I told you a bit about my quest to shed my Martyr title and become a Model Mommy/Polished Partner.
For me, this is all about personal attention and reinventing myself circa 2015. These are three simple ways to reinvent yourself.
1 – Get a makeover
Let’s face it. Looks are important. Studies have shown that people place higher expectations on attractive people. The amazing thing is that when people have these elevated expectations placed on them, they are more likely to achieve them. Initially, I wanted to be a Model Mommy/Polished Partner so I could be someone my family would be proud of, but as I thought about, I realized my motivation had to start and end with me. I had to like the person I saw in the mirror because regardless if she was a 10 or a 6.5 or if she wore Chanel or Walmart, it wouldn’t matter much what others thought if she constantly questioned her own worth. So if we get back to the heightened expectations we place on more attractive people, understand that you if like the person you see in the mirror, you will expect more from her and, therefore, you will achieve more than you ever thought possible.
2 – Change your name
As my daughter was getting ready for school this morning, she told me that when she becomes president at age 35, she is going to keep her last name, even if she is married at the time. Her husband would have to become a Raynor and his name would be Brandon Raynor. I’ve never heard her speak of Brandon, so I asked her if she had a crush on one. She said, “No, he will have to change his first name too. His name will be Brandon Raynor.” There you have it. “Brandon Raynor – Future First Husband of the United States of America.”
Our conversation got me thinking. If I were given the opportunity to change my name or title, what would I call myself? For as long as I can remember, I’ve referred to myself as “Gail Raynor, Classic Slacker”. Words have power and we become what we say, so now I refer to myself as “Gail Raynor, Successful Risk-Taker”. Ultimately we determine the course of our lives by determining who we are.
3 – Awaken old dreams
It’s been said that the graveyard is the richest place on earth because it is here that dead dreams have been buried, unfulfilled. As we get older, we dream less than we did as children and start to believe that the mundane is all there is. Eventually, our dreams have all but disappeared. You may have lost time and squandered opportunities, but remember, dreams don’t have a shelf-life. Start to pursue some of those dreams that have been put to sleep.
Reinvention is simply a matter of making new choices. Choose to love who you are. Choose to believe the best of yourself. Choose to live a life that brings you joy.